Pattern Fatigue

THE HOPE

Did you read what I sent?

Yeah. Here’s what stood out to me.

What did you think?

I liked it. And I’m curious what you saw in it.

I feel a disconnect.

Ok. Let’s slow down. What part felt off?

Can you respond to the thing I actually said?

Yes. Say it again so I stay with you.

This is important to me.

Then it’s important to me too.

Do you want to talk about it?

Of course. Let’s work through it.

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THE ATTEMPT

Did you read what I sent?

I did, but I think I missed the point. Can you walk me through it?

What did you think?

I’m trying to match what you saw in it, but I’m not sure I got there.

I feel a disconnect.

I know. I’m trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong.

Can you respond to the thing I actually said?

I’m trying to. I get sidetracked. Say it again.

This is important to me.

I know. I’m trying not to screw this up.

Do you want to talk about it?

I want to, but I’m overwhelmed. I don’t want to make it worse.

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THE STRUGGLE

Did you read what I sent?

Yes.

What did you think?

It was fine.

I feel a disconnect.

I don’t know what you mean.

Can you respond to the thing I actually said?

I thought I did.

This is important to me.

Ok.

Do you want to talk about it?

What’s the tough conversation you want to have?

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THE SURRENDER

Did you read what I sent?

It doesn’t matter anymore.

What did you think?

I don’t have the bandwidth to keep parsing this.

I feel a disconnect.

We’ve been disconnected for a long time.

Can you respond to the thing I actually said?

I’m not getting pulled back into that loop.

This is important to me.

And it keeps costing me more than I can give.

Do you want to talk about it?

There’s nothing left to talk through. Only distance left to keep.